Wake me when it's over
If the general public is sick of hearing about marriage equality, imagine what it’s like for us queer folk. Just get on with it Australia, implores Nicky Bryson, so we can get on with it.
Tradies are ‘turned off’ by gay marriage, and regular Australians are ‘sick of hearing about it’. The bible belt think the whole issue is a ‘distraction’ and Tony Abbott thinks the push for equal rights is a fashion statement.
You know what? I’m sick of hearing about it too. I’m so tired of seeing marriage equality being used as a stick for politicians to beat each other with and I have had quite enough of every bloody ‘expert’ weighing in to tell us what the rest of Australia think about the issue.
I’m frustrated every time I see the words ‘conscience vote’ or when yet another opinion poll pops up to tell us what a whole bunch of people who never plan to get gay-married feel about gays getting married.
For the life of me I can’t understand why so many people feel they should get a say in the delivery of a basic civil right. If they can accept that we should pay taxes, obey the laws and live in harmony with the ideals of Australia, then why do they expect us to be subjected to legalised federal discrimination?
US commentator Rachel Maddow said: “But here’s the thing about rights – they’re not actually supposed to be voted on. That’s why they’re called rights”. I truly believe that. You can talk to me all you like about putting marriage equality to a vote and all I can think is, “I don’t remember the referendum where I got to vote on straight marriage”.
There is such a sense of rage building in me that I don’t know how to deal with at all. I keep seeing perfectly normal people talk about how the marriage equality debate is taking much-needed focus away from education, health and unemployment and I want to scream.
Do people realise how easy it is to say that sort of thing when you are secure in your rights? Have they got any idea how much it hurts to be pushed aside and told to “wait because it will happen eventually”? Until then, I guess we should piss off to the back of the bus and wait until every other single problem in this country has been solved.
I’m tired of waiting, I’m tired of trying to put forth balanced arguments, I’m tired of being told that everything else is so much more important. I’m just fucking tired.
Most of all, I’m sick to death of writing these columns about marriage equality when what I really want to be doing is writing my marriage vows.